Hospital Playlist: Who Is Deserving of Love
Finally… someone comes right out and says it somewhere on the internet… “I don’t understand what Ahn Jeong-won sees in Jang Gyeo-ul and why he would fall for her.” While those of us who root for them might reel at such glaring prejudice , it should be commended for its honesty at least. That sentiment although not as starkly expressed has been a part of Hospital Playlist viewership landscape since S1. It’s one I’ve given much thought to because it does have real philosophical and moral ramifications. And unfortunately it’s just how my brain works. It would be easy to dismiss it in the rough and tumble of internet disputation but I want to revisit this because it is a subject very close to my heart.
On some level I think it’s the wrong question to ask because what the inquirer assumes is firstly, that a fictional character called Ahn Jeong-won should have exactly the same kind of cultural/social/conventional standards for evaluating the suitability of a life partner as the inquirer. It also assumes that there are a set of unspoken universal rules by which people of different cultures and belief systems make important life decisions. There’s seemingly no room for nuance. This is why I think there’s so little civility on social media regarding differences in opinion because we don’t really know what’s motivating people to think the way they do but we insist that we do.
Over the ages, bards and poets have talked about the irrationality or inexplicability of love. “Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.” (A Midsummer Night’s Dream Act 1, Scene 1) It’s undoubtedly easier than to have to explain why X should fall for Y. I don’t know about anyone else but as an explanation, it’s deeply unsatisfying. To me. As someone who reads, watches and writes I can’t accept these platitudes that “the heart wants what the heart wants” without probing further.
There’s an ongoing drama called Nevertheless that’s generating all kinds of controversy about the female lead and her relationships with men. I don’t watch it (the frustration that it causes tells me everything I need to know) but I’ve seen a few clips on YT and I read the comments. What’s relevant to the discussion here is that the same sorts of things are said about her dynamic with the men who have shown interest in her. Guy No. 1 is manipulative and should be avoided like the plague. Guy No. 2 is nicer and he deserves her. Or even she deserves neither. Obviously I’m simplifying it but there are a whole range of views and a lot of nuance in between. It sounds like a bleakly realistic take on modern day twenty-something relationships and I’m not in the frame of mind for it.
When we discuss the romance in our favourite dramas we assume that there’s some agreement about what a healthy or unhealthy relationship looks like. We never think to question or examine our own assumptions. Perhaps it’s just for convenience’s sake or maybe it’s some kind of an appeal to natural law. Obviously on some level we stand on the shoulders of men and women far wiser than we are, who have spent more time thinking about these things and we’re just parroting them.
Have we ever asked ourselves why we look upon recent events concerning bidulgi with such disfavour? Why we root for the bear couple, WG or Ik-Song? I don’t think it’s just about chemistry and hormones surely. Maybe it’s just me and my own tendency to overthink. That’s not to say that people in relationships don’t do irrational things or things that work against their own interests. They do it all the time. But there are reasons and they don’t have to be logical.
I said in my last post that conclusions I came to about Episode 8 helped me to rethink the maggot scene from S1 — if anyone’s forgotten, it’s the scene in which Jang Gyeo-ul walks into the emergency ward, puts on gloves and starts pulling maggots off a homeless man when everyone else is standing around revolted by the sight. In walks Jeong-won and the sight of Ms Not-My-Cup-of-Tea doing her job without murmuring or any expression of disgust is enough to completely overturn his earlier impressions of her. If anyone wants to know what Ahn Jeong-won sees in her, this is it.
Knowing what I now know about Gyeo-ul’s family situation, helps me see the maggot scene on another level. In all probability her stoicism was born out of a difficult growing up environment. How many times would she have had to “clean up” after her parents? She wasn’t without compassion at all but her compassion comes from an entirely different place. A place of hardship. Was she abused too? At this point we can only guess. We talk about compassion almost exclusively as a feeling in general conversation but in Christianity real compassion is thoughtfulness substantiated by actions. She didn’t just imbue the man with a sense of dignity but she showed that she had the potential to be a really great doctor because there was more depth to her than first impressions would suggest.
I think we can give Jeong-won a great deal of credit for his sensitivity and perception as seen in his numerous interactions with patients and guardians. The fact is that he didn’t like Gyeo-ul at first makes him a credible testimonial to her potential. It wasn’t love at first sight on his part but something he saw made him change his mind about her completely. This is the magic of Shin-Lee — to take a well-used trope and do something far more profound with it.
I love the maggot scene so much and I can never move from it because it continues to remind me in some fashion of the parable of The Good Samaritan as told by Jesus who personified compassion. It encapsulates the Christian principle of grace. In fact there’s a reference to the Good Samaritan in the same episode that’s beautifully woven into the tapestry of that episode.
I’ve had the privilege of seeing in person a few of Van Gogh’s paintings in days gone by and I love what he does with colours. These days everyone says he was an artist ahead of his time. In his lifetime the poor fellow never enjoyed the reputation he now has universally. That said, I don’t completely understand why someone would pay millions of dollars for a painting. I have never even seen that kind of money and it is unlikely that I will ever do so. Frankly I can think of better ways to use that sort of dollars. Nevertheless, for some who has deep pockets, paying $82 million USD for The Portrait of Doctor Gachet seems to be worth it for whatever reasons. Worth… apparently is in the eye of the beholder.
These days we’re getting into the nitty gritty of how a number of relationships are playing out. The question of worth has come up again and I think it’s valid because it speaks to effort and longevity. If we were to ask Jun-wan whether Ik-sun is worth it — all the heartache, the misery, the sleepless nights, what do you think he would say in comparison to all the viewers on drama forums and social media? If we asked Ik-jun the same question about Song-hwa who has friendzoned him, does he really need to go that far? Or is it because it just gives him joy to be whatever he can be to her? Does he remember her schedule to the letter and acts as gatekeeper just to earn her affection or is there something else motivating him? Even if she continues saying “no” to him for the next five years, do you think it will change the way he feels about her? What about my favourites, the WG? Do you think Jeong-won is someone who looks just at the surface? Why do you think Shin Hyun-bin who is a beautiful, talented actress is so plainly styled in this drama? Maybe the show is trying to say something about the kind of man Jeong-won is and some other ancillary stuff about books and covers.
Just maybe the show wants to say something different to what we think it should be saying.
Just my 2 cents.
*sigh* Thank you for writing this. So good.
When people insist that other people should like only certain people, suitable, safe and deserving, that's a bit like playing with dolls, don't you think? Feelings should be predictable, and relationships smooth, and no-one ever should struggle or make mistakes. That's a bit childish attitude, and life is never going to give you that. Real relationship are always uncomfortable to a certain extent, and as you mentioned previously, negotiation is the key. Can this irrational wish to pair the pairings as a matchmaker would is a reflection that we don't trust love anymore? This makes me sad. And your post made me hopeful ❤️
Some drama viewers only want ideal things on their screen. Where a handsome, good taste in fashion man be with beautiful and chic woman. I don't know but for me it says a lot about themselves, especially when what they think as not suitable is something on the surface only like face or looks. I don't wanna sounds like a noble saint but it's true tho, in reality nothing is really ideal when it comes to fall for someone. Of course I love to see good looking man or woman, but you can fall and be in a relationship with any kind of person. Even with person who has not really nice personality or the personality not really match with you.
It makes me re-think again to what happened in the drama. I got so frustrate with Junwan and Iksun but I have to admit that at some point of my life I was ever be in that positition, made stupid mistakes, didn't solve problem well, etc. What some viewers said as typical kdrama trope, hence the criticism towards ShinLee, is actually what real people might experience. But since us, the viewers, want only ideal things with ideal problem solving, it's hard to accept when writer tends to do otherwise.